why do we always want what we don’t have?
The other day I was stuck at a traffic light on my way to work. I noticed a snazzy woman dressed in business casual was crossing the street. As I itched at my leg that was kind of stifling in the stretchy athletic leggings I was wearing, I couldn’t help but think–
I’m kind of sick of wearing workout clothes all day.
I’m sorry, what?! Who am I?! When I was in the world of snooty business dress I looked forward to the part of the day where I’d strip off my stiff clothes and get into my running clothes. I loved the freedom of movement, the sweat-wicking fabric, the tiny pockets that held my subway card and keys. I felt much more at home in my workout clothes than in my work clothes…foreshadowing what career was to come for me, perhaps? Or maybe I’m just like everyone else and like elastic waistbands over buttoned ones.
Anyway, what I’m boiling down to is the idea of wanting the have-nots. Why are we never satisfied with what we currently have? Why do we always want what we don’t have?
It happens all the time–the pregnant woman yearning for her pre-pregnancy body, the married woman reminiscing on her single days, the man who scored the fancy promotion wishing he didn’t spend so much time at work. Classic.
It’s stressing to think about. Think of all that we work for, all the goals we want to achieve, only to be sabotaged by the unfortunate fact that we’re always going to want something else. Maybe the concept of “having it all” is actually nonexistent…once you do have it all, you suddenly have a new definition of what “all” means to you.
Don’t worry, I quickly slapped myself out of my jealous moment though when I realized how much I hate tucking a dress shirt into pants. That’s a whole other level of discomfort. Yuck.
Do you guys ever have those moments of wanting what you don’t have? What’s your typical recurring want and will you ever feasibly have it?